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This is the Modern World .. May 22, 2007

Posted by stagedive in Idle Thoughts, Kids.
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Son #2 is only 8. He accompanied me into town last Friday night on a ‘dropping the masses off to get intoxicated’ jaunt. On the way through the Town Centre there were surly looking some bouncers outside a couple of the bars and he asked me, ‘why do they have guards outside a pub?’ .. i answered in the best way I saw how and he accepted that some people cause trouble for no reason and acknowledged that when people drink, they sometimes get violent ..

This led onto quite a reasoned debate and a more alarming perception of a nightclub .. ‘I don’t think I ever want to go to a nightclub, because of all the guns’, he said .. I explained the likelihood of anyone having a gun was remote, that’s the job of the bouncer, and that the well publicised local shootingdoesn’t mean that every club is littered with gun toting drug dealers .. we had a nice chat about it and whilst I wasn’t trying to promote club land, I don’t want him to latch on to one news item and become paranoid.

It is a shame .. Children were still Children when I was his age, these days the masses of information and media mean that kids see and hear so much more at a young age. I think I would be the same. I don’t see him sitting down to watch the news, it’s more a sub-conscious absorption from Internet, TV & Playground – the Playground is especially rife with stories and opinions these days, and now all a kid has to do to find out more is type the new word into Google. What 8 year old kid isn’t inquisitive?

I don’t believe in too much censorship, but you don’t want you kids to miss out on the tooth fairy phase in order to come to terms with Heroin Addiction and the poor working condition in the Town’s Red Light District..

Thankfully both my Children will talk openly about things and haven’t gathered any obvious hang-ups, we all adapt, and if the media is out there, it’s a case of standing on guard to spot the news heading their way and helping out with some rational context. The joys of modern parenthood.


Sunscreen .. May 21, 2007

Posted by stagedive in Idle Thoughts, Kids.

PandaI offer some worthwhile advice this time. If you are going to purchase (moderately) fashionable over-sized sunglasses that could have handed down from a Terminator/Roy Orbison hybrid, do not .. repeat .. do not  .. wear them in the extreme sunshine for any length of time .. especially not all day Sunday in the middle of an open field ..

‘Panda Boy Lobster Face’ is what my Son called me, amongst fits of giggles .. It’s a good job I don’t have to face the wrath of the playground today. We ate out last night and T booked two tables, one for me,one for her and the kids .. the waiter was trying to look at me as though there was nothing wrong .. it could be some hideous incurable skin complaint after all .. I think I provided sufficient entertainment for all ..

On a slightly heavier note, I headed to London today. It was all going so well, although I was obviously preparing myself for the adult equivalent of playground piss taking .. no one in my office would have let me out of the room alive, in a respectful manner .. of course .. then the train stops .. I wait, we wait .. and wait .. about an hour later we discover someone is having a worse day .. they had jumped in front of the train in front of us! What a way to start the week. It’s hard to be mad at someone for making the train too late, for you to attend a meeting that in a couple of months time you will have forgotten about – to them, the situation was somewhat more dire.

I had wasted enough time to make it worthless heading into the City, so I turned round and came back home. I had wasted my train fare & was moderatly annoyed for about 30 mins and then joined the meeting by phone. My day returned to schedule with some ease. The person whose life ended at Marks Tey this morning has family members in shock, lives turned upside down, probably, it won’t be quite so smooth running for them .. thoughts to them ..

Solarcaine for the Soul ..

Very Important .. May 15, 2007

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I spent a Sunday recovering, not just from excessive alcohol,but more from shock .. shock at having found myself nightclubbing, and not just any nightclub .. <shudder> Liquid no less ..

For those that dont know the Liquid chain, they are largely frequented by the types that are barely out of high school and favour wearing insufficient under garments to keep off the spring chill ..

Why then was I there … well .. a quiet drink out, turned into a rather heavy session. Amongst the quiet gathering was local business man of the year and all round nice bloke, who suggested a trip to the VIP loungeat said establishment, gratis, as though it was the most natural place to finish off the evening .. I had a feeling of trepidation, but you can’t slate a place when you haven’t the evidence to slate .. so research, that was what was needed .. I didn’t even know they had such a thing as a VIP lounge – are there really VIPs in a sleepy Suffolk Town .. maybe Bill Whyman and John Peel’s Wife Sheila .. surely they wouldn’t be there full time??

Ushered past the hoardes like a minor celebrity I expected to be sharing the lounge with overpaid footballers with Cocaine habits*, but it was quite a nice crowd, the drinks were free (if Carlsberg made nightclubs?!) and the people watching was pretty fine.. So, all in all, I gathered sufficient evidence to confirm I don’t want to return, but it was a blast, there was lots of drinking and giggling and despite the hangover, I can stand up, be counted and state that I had a good night out at Liquid ..<splutter> ..

* Unnecessary stereotype based on no real solid evidence ..

Digging .. May 10, 2007

Posted by stagedive in Idle Thoughts.

I have never been interested in gardening, even when the fad of TV make-over programmes had Ms Dimmock pendulating across our screens .. I also find it curious that a lot women find Alan Titchmarsh a heart-throb .. however ..

After way too many years of staring out over a sea of weed like super structures, I have eventually got round to improving the view. It is a fantastic feeling. So happy me sits smugly gazing out into the new found urban, well subarban, wilderness ..

The thing that struck me though, was my new found love of digging .. I spent the best part of a whole day digging compost from my local refuse tip and loading into the car .. it was sunny, dirty and macho* & I loved it .. It gave me a (largely false) feeling of achievement and self worth, as if I was in tune with nature, despite having ripped out 30m2 of perfectly good worm habitat and replacing it with shingle :$

I now get the urge to ‘get out in the garden’ and dig at the most surprising times .. I think it is largely hormonal, and will probably pass once I have bought an open topped sports car and suffered depression, but until that happens, I’m spade in hand and smiling ..

* It’s all relative, but it is more macho than hand cream, that’s for sure ..

Too Much, Too Young .. May 1, 2007

Posted by stagedive in Idle Thoughts, My Girlfriend.

There was a time when MySpace, meant My Space & not some social intraction portal .. but it is with a giddy step that I announce to the world* that ‘my space’ is soon to become ‘our space’ .. it might catch on you know .. I asked T to move in & she said .. yes

I have that happy nervousness about me, albeit without the nervousness .. I have lived with anyone for 6 years & although the overwhelming emotion is excitement, I am equally curious about all the potentially pointless debates about nothing, that mean lots to one and little to another .. i.e. why can’t we sell all your guitars? <gulp> …

What happens when my ‘stuff’ gets relegated to the garage, what about the Barbie collection .. is that negotiable in today’s society?? Actually, should I admit to having a barbie collection in the first place????

As I momentarily skip through corn fields in my mind, it seems to be the easiest decision .. she is the best thing ever and soooooo easy to get on with .. so as I look forward to unpacking boxes full of things pink, fluffy and bow like, someone remind me in a couple of years time that debates about selling guitars are pointless … please please remind me …

* well, maybe not the whole world, but ‘modest readership’ sounded paltry in such context ..